Tuesday, July 2, 2013

Tools of the trade

This blog post is for all you mothers out there wracking your brain at what to do about this and that....When we first got Vika she would hit herself almost nonstop....ALL. THE.TIME. Why? well she wanted attention or she was anxious and she needed release....Slowly those behaviors are dwindling but she has started to scream a horrible dying child growl scream in its place and it happens...often. WE tried time outs to alleviate the scream...we tried time outs, time ins, we tried talking about them, telling her no when she actually did it, She knows she is doing something she isn't supposed to but still she screamed.  It was worse in the car and we tried screaming with her, having screaming contests, cheering every time she did it...WE TRIED everything.....well not everything...so I thought I would share what has finally worked for us.
Yep thats right a weed sprayer.  Wait before you freak out we put water in it and have been using it at home to spray the cats that like to yell on the stairs....well we have found that if you squirt her while she is screaming she instantly stops and sometimes she giggles and SOMETIMES she talks and says fooey dooey or OK instead of her growling scream.....Maybe this will lead her to be more VERBAL in an appropriate way....I'm praying it will....AMEN to that!

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  1. hmmm..maybe I should try that with my son? When he was younger and would scream I would blow on his face and he would stop-but now he screams and me hugging him tightly, rocking, etc don't calm him down for 10-15 minutes.
    Glad you found something that works!

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  2. The car is hard for my son too. He hits his head or pokes his eyes...it's a struggle. Glad you found something that is helping!

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    1. Yeah we tried stopping the car and holding ....everything she is purposely doing the scream then she stops and asks for candy? then whether we answer or not does it again....so frustrating when you know they have complete control and are choosing this path!!

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  3. Wow..spanking?
    I'm a bit lost for words right now.. no child should be spanked..especially not a blind child.
    I hope you stay away from tactics like that..

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    1. Ok so obviously you disagree with spanking and that is ok. To each his own. But the especially not a blind child got me? Why not a blind child?. All children can be disciplined no matter the circumstance....they need boundaries. That said we were looking for a punishment that would work and for our children who we treat like all the other children. Obviously it didn't damage her for life but it doesn't work for her either. The spray bottle does.

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  4. They don't see it coming..do they?
    You basically take advantage of the situation.. the child won't see whether you gonna spank or spray her with a bottle.. jeez its not a cat..

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    1. Our kids always get a countdown before a punishment and they mostly chose to stop the behavior BUT they also know if they keep making bad choices....and you'd be surprised how much pets and kids are a like...that is another thing altogether though. It is a way to instantly stop the behavior in a non-harmful way.

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